The journey of Mpola Mpola – learning to embrace slowly slowly

Greetings from Dubai airport,

Wow, it really has been a long time since I wrote to you all – my last group email was as we set sail across the Atlantic ocean from Lanzarote back in December 2024 and to say a lot has happened since then would be an understatement… 

Needless to say, we made it – three generations crossed a vast deep ocean together and loved it – a very special one for the memory bank. What’s hard to put into words is all that followed – how we continued our journey through the Caribbean, to Panama and through the canal, to the Galapagos islands and across the mighty Pacific Ocean, through French Polynesia and Tonga and, just over a month ago, sailed into the Bay of Islands to complete our journey half way around the world. I had intended to create a blog (entitled ‘The Long Way Home’!) about our time on our boat, Mpola Mpola (meaning slowly slowly in Luganda), but, to be perfectly honest, when it came to it, I didn’t want to. So I didn’t. I just loved being entirely present on the boat each day, waking with the sunrise (often before the boys!), doing morning yoga up the bow, opening my eyes each day to an entirely new view, new lush tropical foliage, new beaches and new fellow cruisers anchored around us in various bays. I loved slow mornings and tropical fruit eaten in coconut bowls, glorious coffee brewed fresh each morning (thanks to my coffee machine – a wonderfully indulgent Christmas present from Nath which ensured daily delicious coffee no matter how remote our destination!), plunging over the side into the aquamarine water, snorkelling coral reefs, shipwrecks and the infamous ‘Wall of Sharks’ in the Tuamotus with the boys. Afternoons involved more swimming, reading, homemade baking, adventures ashore, beach walks and games, meeting up with other cruisers, the boys paddle boarding around the bay befriending everyone they met – and inviting them back to our boat for evening happy hour drinks! Every sunset brought with it a pause, a moment of gratitude for the day, our boat, our life, the people and our health. I went to bed each night with a smile and a bubbling sense of excitement for what the next day would hold – more blissful wanderings, refreshing plunges, seeing the world reflected in the boys’ eyes as they discovered life as it’s meant to be lived – slowly and with intention. So you see, there was no time for screens, for sitting on laptops, as little time on phones as possible – just to let our closest family and friends know we were still alive and thriving (and had, in fact made it beyond the Atlantic crossing!). 

But here I am now, at Dubai airport with a coffee and my laptop, taking a moment of stillness while the world rushes past. I am in my own world – quite literally between two worlds, having boarded my plane in Auckland, leaving behind my gorgeous boys in the loving hands of Nath and my parents, on a brief stopover before boarding my final flight to Entebbe where my Ugandan family will be waiting with open arms. And this, in this airport of eternal transience, feels, as it always has, like the perfect place to finally write again.  

It’s far beyond the scope of the time I have before my next flight to capture everything that has happened this past year and a half since we left NZ but I will try the nutshell version – the longer version, perhaps, will be a book for the future… The biggest thing that sticks with me about our year at sea was the simple joy of TIME. Time together as a family, time to do things slowly, time to reflect, time to think, time spent on watch at sea under a myriad of shooting stars contemplating the world and all its wonders, time to really truly listen to our children, time to answer their questions, to wonder together, to just be. And the best part of it all was that I never once wished time could speed up, that the pace of life could speed up. The gloriously languid slow passing of time when you are with the ones you love is the greatest gift you could ask for. The conscious act of breathing in clean, fresh, sea air, relishing the feeling of sun on salty skin and the incomparable joy of that first dive off the back of the boat each morning into the water’s sparkling embrace. Moment after moment of pure joy. 

Encompassed within the joy of having so much time was watching our boys blossom and thrive as they basked in the love of two fully present parents who had chosen to live a life less ordinary with them. Everyone always asked if we were home schooling them but we just smiled and replied ‘we are doing boat school’. Boat school consisted of basic reading and writing lessons on days when it felt right. But mostly it consisted of letting the boys paddle around the bay, exploring and discovering the world together and coming back to the boat bursting with excitement at the places, people and things they had discovered. It meant meeting people old and young from all corners of the world, forming fast, vibrant friendships and then learning to be OK with parting ways, knowing our paths may or may not cross again but being grateful for the time we shared together. Boat school was all about adventure, exploration, imagination, flow states, questioning, wondering and discovering. Meals were always a time to chat, to ask more questions, to be OK with not knowing the answers but pondering together – and always, always there was music. So many nights dinner would end with the music blaring and the four of us dancing in the cockpit under the stars, singing to the night, feeling my heart would burst with the joy of it. 

Of course, there were challenges. Jack and I struggled with seasickness at times, we experienced the brunt of ugly seas and angry winds, we dodged the relentless steam of container ships roaring out of the Panama Canal in the dark while navigating between lightning storms, Charlie’s first snorkelling expedition resulted in 26 sea urchin spikes being embedded in his little foot and us hobbling from clinic to clinic in the BVIs to try and fix him (note for future – the spikes just make their way out so don’t bother with the clinic!). Nath had several trips back to NZ to work for Team NZ, leaving the boys and I alone in various locations – including three weeks in a marina in Panama where the boys and I were literally in tears of despair at times due to the oppressive, relentless heat – Charlie aptly described it with sweat rolling down his cheeks: ‘Mama, I feel like my brain is going to explode.’ But these moments were far, far outweighed by the pinch-yourself ones – like going for a jungle walk next to that very same marina where we watched howler monkeys swinging through the trees overhead and followed trails of ‘caravan ants’ marching along old WWII railway sleepers into the dense foliage. There are so many spectacular memories embedded into our minds forever. 

And now, having settled back in to the warm embrace of our incredible community in Devonport, it’s time for me to go back to my Ugandan home. The rather mammoth task of attempting to visit 112 sponsor students lies before me but I feel if there’s one thing I have taken from boat life, it’s that rushing will not make things easier and that just doing what we can do in the time we have – whilst enjoying the journey – is the best way. So I sit with a smile, the faces of all those waiting for me rolling through my mind, as I look forward to bringing the peace of my sailing soul with me to the red earth of the village. I know it will be well received there – it’s how everyone in the village already lives, it just took me sailing across the world to be able to realise it for myself. 

Sending much love and light to you all,

Em xoxoxo

A school bus sails into the village…

Greetings from the shores of Lake Victoria!

Two days and several thousand miles later, from an island in the Atlantic to a land-locked nation in East Africa, I have arrived back in Uganda. This is my seventh annual trip here and I’m so excited to catch up with everyone in my village home, to hear about the highs and lows the year has brought and to share in the celebrations of those who are soon to be graduating from the Kiwi Sponsorships programme. However, this trip also has a particularly special purpose. For years, KAASO has had a dream dangling on the horizon but, until now, it has remained just that – an unattainable, far-off dream. Tomorrow though, that dream will become a reality. KAASO is getting a school bus.

Since 2009 when I first came to Uganda, Dominic and Rose have been telling me how much the school needs a school bus. The alternative – children riding on the barred tray of the school truck – is both illegal and incredibly dangerous. The truck has tipped several times and fortunately none of the children were badly hurt but we all feared that it was only a matter of time. It was not a sustainable option. A couple of years ago, KAASO began reaching out to the community requesting funds towards the school bus and over $1,500 was raised but, in a community where it’s hard to find the money for school fees, coming up with the remaining $30,000 for a bus was a colossal challenge.

And here’s where my story begins.

It all started in the most unlikely of settings – a beach-front restaurant for a rosé-infused lunch with a friend called Rebecca. I was explaining how much KAASO needed a school bus but how daunted I was by the task of trying to raise $30,000 USD to make this happen. You can gather donations for buildings and piggeries, I explained, brick by brick, sty by sty, but wheel by wheel doesn’t really work for a school bus. You kind of need the whole thing.

So Rebecca and I teamed up with the mission to make this actually happen. Her company, RenRe, was hosting their annual sailing day in early June and Rebecca suggested we use this day to help raise our funds. If I could get a bunch of America’s Cup sailors to helm the boats that RenRe’s clients and brokers would be sailing on, we could ask for bids to secure their favourite Cup sailor on board their boat. I emailed sailors from Artemis Racing, Oracle Team USA and Softbank Team Japan asking if they might help out – ‘an afternoon sail for a school bus?’ was my pitch. Within an hour, I had Dean Barker, Chris Draper, Jimmy Spithill, Tom Slingsby, Grant Simmer, Iain Percy, Francesco Bruni and, not surprisingly, Nathan Outteridge, committed to helping. We were on.

The team from RenRe, spearheaded by Rebecca, did an impressive job of rallying up support and enthusiasm and, once again, Claire’s amazing graphic design skills came into play, helping to create an infographic to explain what we were trying to achieve. All six America’s Cup teams donated signed merchandise which I had gathered at the America’s Cup World Series event in New York and, along with some LV Cup products from previous editions, I also had donated experiences from America’s Cup – and from my very obliging husband!

The day of the fundraiser, I felt sick with nerves. There was so much riding on this day and while I knew anything we could raise would be amazing, I was acutely aware of how much money was needed and that it might in fact take several fundraisers to achieve our goal. I so badly wanted this to work.

I boarded RenRe’s superyacht where I spent the day on board with a bunch of wonderful people, drumming up support for the silent auction items as well as encouraging those on the boats to bid higher and higher for their favourite sailors to join them for the final race of the day. Momentum gathered quickly and I was blown away not only by people’s generosity but also by how interested they were in the cause and how much the idea of providing a school bus to children in Uganda struck a chord with a bunch of people on an island in the middle of the ocean.

The final race was incredible. The Cup sailors did an amazing job of showing everyone a good time – and doing all they could to ensure that they were ahead of their team mates. By the time everyone rolled into the RenRe dock, the day had already far surpassed my expectations. And that was before the live bidding even began.

Originally there were only supposed to be two live auction items – a two-hour foiling sailing session with Nathan and a 4-person ride in an America’s Cup chase boat to watch the boats training on the Great Sound in Bermuda. However, a combination of much excitement, many drinks, and overwhelming support saw these two auction items multiply to six. Iain Percy from Artemis Racing, realising that there were multiple groups willing to pay good money for the chase boat ride, threw in two extra rides on the Artemis chase boat, spurring on Grant Simmer from Oracle Team USA to donate a ride as well.  That act alone raised us $12,000. Then, the CEO of RenRe, deciding that his wife should also have the chance to sail with Nathan, asked if Nath would donate another foiling experience (the first had already been won) which he gladly agreed to and the bidding opened once more. While Rebecca was helping coordinate the auction, I was madly running around trying to calculate where we were at so far between the boat bids, the silent auction items and the ever-growing live auction funds. As the live auction closed, I pushed EQUALS on my calculator, and then stood staring at my screen, stunned. Then the tears began to fall. We had raised $30,190.

I gave an impromptu – and hugely tearful – speech, letting the room know that we had reached our goal – we would have our school bus. A sea of smiling faces erupted into applause and cheers and I just stood there, crying and grinning dumbly before engulfing Rebecca in a huge hug. We had done it!

In the weeks that followed, Rebecca did an incredible job of helping me collect each and every dollar and I was amazed to find that our total amount just kept going up and up – people were so moved by the experience that they wanted to donate more, to give more, to help more. I was blown away.

In the end, we raised over $40,000, all of which has now reached the village and, on Wednesday, Dominic purchased the bus. As if that wasn’t enough, a few weeks ago, Rebecca decided to join me to help deliver the bus along with my brother-in-law, Beau, who is going to make a short film about the bus delivery. Things couldn’t have worked out more perfectly.

So now I sit looking out across Lake Victoria with Rebecca at my side, and I have to pinch myself to realise it’s not just some amazing dream that I’ll soon wake up from. Beau flies in tonight and Dominic will pick us all up in the bus tomorrow morning and together, we will drive to the village.

I am so hugely grateful to each and every person who helped make this happen – to the sailors, the donors, the far-away cheerleaders and of course to Rebecca, whose huge heart and incredible determination that this was going to happen has meant, quite simply, that is has. Tomorrow is going to be one for the record books – and one requiring quite a few tissues I feel…

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Lake Victoria, Uganda